Santa Claus is not coming to town
Santa Claus did not come on Christmas, at least in our home. My wife and I have decided that we will not be doing the gifts “from Santa” routine with our son. I ruminated on it for a while though because I grew up believing in Santa, Christmas day always felt magical and the excitement leading to it was unbearable.
I would choose my dad’s largest sock and hang it by the window (we don’t need chimneys). On Christmas morning, it would be filled with candies, chocolates and coins! Of course chocolate coins would be best. Some years are better than others and Santa doesn’t always give you what you want because he might be having trouble with his finances. But it was lots of fun, well at least until that day Santa decides to hand your mom his gift for you. At the wet market. Before Christmas.
The threat of being on Santa’s naughty list seems to be a common technique used by parents to control kids in the days or weeks leading up to Christmas. I don’t want to do it with my child because I think all it does is stop the behavior for a while and not really correct it. I don’t know if others have tried to use it all year round, but seriously, do you want your child’s behavior to be influenced by a man in a red suit who sneaks into your house at night?
When I was young, I still got a gift from Santa even if I did naughty things my parents didn’t know about. I think even if you do Santa in your house, it should not be used as a control for behavior since you really can’t be with your kids 24/7 and it just leads to
I don’t want to lie to my son. This is not even about Santa being real or not, it is about making an elaborate lie that you add onto over the years. Is it less fun to receive a gift from your parents than from a jolly old man? I think the joy on a child’s face opening a gift on Christmas day would still be the same. I dread the lies that are built up year after year on Christmas would come with a terrible price. I don’t want to lose my son’s trust in us as his parents. I don’t want him to feel betrayed like I did.
Some resourceful people I know continued to pretend when they were kids in order to keep receiving gifts from Santa. Did the child become imaginative, smart or just learned to lie?
I won’t be throwing out the Santa decorations, and we will still sing songs and read stories about Santa. I want my son to know them as just that, stories and symbols that try to augment the spirit of Christmas. I want him to learn that Christmas is about the birth of Jesus and not about the coming of Santa Claus. I want him to know that God love us so much, He gave his only Son. I want my son to know we love him so much that we didn’t let Santa Claus come to our house.
Did Santa come to your house last Christmas? Share with us why or why not in the comments.